I have shared my personal experiences of racism in relationships and sometimes I've been frankly told, "I don't believe you or trust you." And other times, my experience has been dismissed as merely an individual one that needs individual healing and not organizational or structural change.
This is some hard-won wisdom. Thank you for sharing. At this point in my experience with anti-racism, I just can't trust white folks who don't hate their whiteness. If this comment gets flagged for breaching community guidelines, maybe that proves my point. If only one half of this relationship wants to exorcise the demon of whiteness, this relationship isn't going to work. Proving trust that we're both aiming in the same direction is fundamental.
I have shared my personal experiences of racism in relationships and sometimes I've been frankly told, "I don't believe you or trust you." And other times, my experience has been dismissed as merely an individual one that needs individual healing and not organizational or structural change.
This is some hard-won wisdom. Thank you for sharing. At this point in my experience with anti-racism, I just can't trust white folks who don't hate their whiteness. If this comment gets flagged for breaching community guidelines, maybe that proves my point. If only one half of this relationship wants to exorcise the demon of whiteness, this relationship isn't going to work. Proving trust that we're both aiming in the same direction is fundamental.